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Nico Ranng's avatar

Great reflections once again, Paul. A reminder for us all that true growth doesn't come from blindly following tradition, but from embracing our individuality, stepping forward, and trusting our own path, even when it challenges convention. As I hurtle into my early 40s, I'm trying desperately to help my children understand this faster than I did!

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things and nothings's avatar

64 teaches a neat mental trick. my understanding is that the sage, just like any other person, does actually have in mind a desirable end state. but they do not hold it in such high regard that they lose their cool. instead, they “do not desire.”

for instance, winning a game of poker. a daoist sage can still want to win, but approach with the expectation of win or loss, never too attached to either outcome. they don’t want the prize pool because it will distract from the game. they won’t hate getting it, but they aren’t dying for it.

most importantly, they aren’t lying to themselves about not wanting it. they are content with what they have. not complacent, just content.

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